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Do Couples Change After Marriage?

I recommend, all current generation loving couples must watch it.

AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

A very good read.
AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here’s the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

How Does Parental Conflict Affect Children?

When parents are in conflict, children are greatly affected. While many parents think that they are keeping the conflict away from their children, they are often sadly mistaken. Even if parents try not to fight in front of their children, the children notice tension in the home. Parents who are experiencing conflict need to understand that this tension has a profound effect on their children, causing many problems, such as behavior and academic difficulties.
Children whose parents are in conflict often do poorly in school. Children blame themselves for parental conflict, mainly because they do not have the maturity to realize that the parents are the ones who create and maintain the conflict. Many children feel as though they have done something wrong to create the conflict, and as a result they have a difficult time concentrating in school. Even conflicts that seem mild to the parents have a tremendous impact on children, because they do not have the ability to discern various levels of conflict. Similarly, conflicts between parents can cause children to act out among their peers. This is also a result of the guilt the child feels, as well as the increasing frustration a child experiences in a home that is full of parental tension.
Children whose parents are continually in conflict soon begin to speak ill of one parent when around the other. For instance, when the child is around the father, he may tell bad stories about mom, and visa versa. This happens because the child is trying to gain the favor of the parent he is with. It does not mean the child actually feels negativity toward the other parent. However, it does provide fodder for the conflict, which continues to escalate, and continues to harm the child.
In addition to these problems, children who are living with parents who are in conflict all of the time often experience health problems. Children whose parents are fighting do not sleep as well as children in stable homes, and this affects their overall health. If the tension continues for a long time, children lose even more sleep, and they begin to get sick and run down. Also, if the conflict ceases, the negative impact continues. Research indicates that the anxiety and physical problems experienced by children who saw high levels of conflict between their parents can continue for at least a year. For this reason, parents need to work hard to keep their homes happy and harmonious. Parents who disagree need to make sure that they do so behind closed doors where their children cannot hear. Finally, parents should make sure that they apologize to each other in front of their children if conflicts arise. This will help the children to avoid the negative impacts of living with parental conflict